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“The Most Dangerous Mistakes Men Make When It Comes To Approaching Women”

2010-02-17T20:30:00.000-08:00

       I have spent literally YEARS learning how to overcome my own fear and shyness... and learning how to approach women in different situation. I have also spent YEARS teaching other men how to overcome THEIR fear and shyness… and teaching them how to successful approach women, start conversations, and create ATTRACTION with women.
       I would like to “boil down” the top mistakes that men make when it comes to approaching women… and then I'd like to teach you STEP BY STEP how to overcome ALL of these mistakes… and create MASSIVE success for yourself with women.
       Here are the biggest mistakes when it comes to approaching women:

MISTAKE #1: Not Knowing How To Deal
With Fear And Shyness

       We are ALL afraid.
       That's right. ALL of us are afraid.
       In life, we all have fears… and it's up to each of us as individuals to either choose to overcome those fears… or choose to let those fears run our lives.
       For most of us guys, we experience intense fear and shyness when it comes to APPROACHING women that we don't know.
       Here's the part that's a “pain in the ass”: When you're experiencing fear and shyness, it feels like you're the ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD who has EVER felt this way.
       The feeling can be SO intense, that it seems IMPOSSIBLE that anyone else could POSSIBLY have a “case” as bad as you. Know what I mean?
       I laugh when I think about it, actually.
       I have spent many, many hours in situations… looking at a woman that I'd like to approach… but just not being able to do it.
       Then, later… after it's all over… I think BACK to the situation… and shake my head because I just couldn't figure out how to overcome my own FEAR… and just TALK TO HER.
       The desperation that resulted from these situations was intense. It was embarrassing. It was demoralizing . It sucked.
       As a man, one of the worst feelings you can have is that something is making you feel like LESS than a man. And this was one of those situations for me.
       I'm kind of hard-headed sometimes. Maybe I like punishment more than others… or maybe I just like to beat my head against the wall longer than most.
       In any event… I didn't give up.
       Even though I was going through this experience over and over… of seeing a woman I wanted to meet… feeling fear and apprehension… not being able to get up the nerve to go talk to her… then thinking about it for hours (or days) after it happened… I just wouldn't let go.
       I became determined to “crack the code” on this one.
       Well, one of the big “ah ha!” moments I had was the SIMPLE act of learning that I WASN'T ALONE.
       Just like it takes some “nerve” to approach a woman, it ALSO takes nerve to ADMIT when you're having challenges in life.
       And one of the things I learned about my “fear of approaching women” was that instead of being “abnormal”, I was actually TYPICAL.
       Imagine that.
       Here I was thinking that I was emotionally retarded… and then I find out that MOST guys have this same issue… and it's just as intense for THEM as it is FOR ME!
       Misery loves company… as they say. I guess that just learning I wasn't alone was enough to really encourage me.
       But then I learned something even MORE important while I was learning how to overcome my own fears: I learned that MANY OTHER GUYS had figured out how to OVERCOME this “fear and shyness issue”… which led me to my next “ah ha!” moment:
       IF THEY CAN DO IT, THEN SO CAN I.
       And I'll tell you something right now: SO CAN YOU. And if you're open-minded and willing to do a little work on your part, then I'd like to show YOU how to do it…

MISTAKE #2: Expecting The Worst

       I have spent a lot of years reading Psychology and “Self Help” books… and listening to audio programs… and going to seminars…
       I've also spent a tremendous amount of time “testing out” the ideas that I've learned in these various books and programs.
       As a result of all this “trying stuff out”, I've come to the realization that EXPECTATIONS play a very important part in RESULTS in life.
       People who always expect bad things to happen… wind up having a lot of bad things happen to them.
       People who only expect good things… wind up having a lot of good things happen.
       Is this Voodoo? Am I talking about freaky New Age ideas that have no basis in reality of any kind?
       No.
       I've never tried Voodoo, by the way… but if you have, and it works, let me know. I'm always looking for new ideas that WORK!
       OK, back to the point…
       I believe that the REASON why expectations are so powerful has to do with the part of your mind that psychologists refer to as the “unconscious mind”. Some call it the “subconscious mind”.
       This is the part of your mind that's “always on”… but it's working “behind the scenes”.
       Have you ever been walking along… or driving… and you sensed danger out of the corner of your eye… and before you knew it, you INSTANTLY responded to avoid the danger?
       Things like this happen to us all the time… but we don't really THINK about what's happening in moments like these.
       The reality is that when we go through an experience like this, there are “miracles” happening inside of us.
       In an instant, before we have time to “think” about what's happening, our entire mind and body have “taken over” and moved us out of the way of harm.
       If you take just one aspect of one of these situations, the PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS, and examine it… you'll find that more is going on than “meets the eye”.
       In order for your mind to perceive the danger, realize that it IS danger, figure out how to respond, then get the body to actually MOVE in away that gets you out of the path of danger… requires a MASSIVE amount of “computing power”.
       Fortunately for you, all of the “computations” are being done outside of your “conscious” awareness.
       But WHERE is it all being done? How is it that you “know” what to do… and you even DO it… before you “realize” what's going on?
       It's all being done in this part of your mind that I'm talking about. It's all happening on the UNCONSCIOUS level.
       Now, think about THIS for a minute:
       Most men who have problems approaching women have one peculiar thing in common: They are all EXPECTING negative outcomes from the approach.
       And they also have a SECOND thing in common: They don't CONSCIOUSLY REALIZE that all of their expectations are negative.
       If you take time to ask, or you stop to think about how it happens for YOU, I think you'll realize that when you think about approaching a woman, your UNCONSCIOUS mind starts to INSTANTLY think about all the NEGATIVE things that might happen.
       In fact, for most guys, this “negative expectation program” literally TAKES OVER… and they CAN'T EVEN IMAGINE a positive outcome.
       This “negative expectation” thing is kind of a bitch, by the way.
       It's painful… and it's not easy to change…
       UNLESS, that is… you know HOW.
       You've learned one of the most important pieces of the puzzle for changing: AWARENESS.
       Now that you KNOW about it, you can start to AFFECT IT…
       Now you need to learn some specific techniques to REVERSE this thinking… and begin to expect POSITIVE things to happen when you approach women…

MISTAKE #3: Making The WRONG First Impression

       Another important think I learned about approaching women is actually something pretty OBVIOUS, when you think about it:
       Attractive women are “approached”… one way or another… CONSTANTLY.
       Women who are attractive are approached in a hundred different ways every day.
       Sometimes it's a co-worker walking by her desk and smiling “too many times” a day…
       Sometimes it's a guy holding a door open a little too long, just hoping to start a conversation…
       Sometimes it's a random email from a guy she doesn't know telling her that he saw her picture online and thinks she's beautiful…
       Sometimes it's a friend who keeps sharing his “feelings” for her…
       And the more she's approached (both subtly and not so subtly), the more she develops a powerful “radar system” that alerts her to a man's intentions.
       Most men don't realize that their lame attempts to get a woman's attention are HURTING them. They don't realize that the things they're doing are actually giving her a NEGATIVE impression… and making it so that it's almost IMPOSSIBLE for her to be attracted.
       You've probably heard me say that “Women aren't attracted to Wussies!”.
       It's true, by the way.
       Let me ask you a couple of questions:
       1) How many chances do you get to make a first impression on a woman?
       2) What impression do most men give off when they approach a woman?
       Right, the WUSSY impression.
       And women have such a finely-tuned “Wussy Radar” system, that's I've actually given it a NAME… I call it WUSS-DAR.
       If the impression you make on a woman is that you're a WUSSY, then it really doesn't MATTER if you've learned to overcome your fear of approaching her… because she's not going to feel any ATTRACTION for you ANYWAY.
       You can train for ten years and become the fastest runner in the world… but if you start off the race running in the WRONG DIRECTION it's going to be pretty hard to WIN.
       So remember: When you approach a woman, make sure the IMPRESSION she's getting is one that triggers ATTRACTION.
       There are a lot of specific ways to create this impression, and I'll tell you some of them right now…
       But REMEMBER: DON'T GIVE HER THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU'RE A WUSSY.

MISTAKE #4: Seeking Her Approval Or Acceptance

       If I could go around the world, and take ALL of the situations that happened today where a man approached a woman that he was interested in dating… and then summarize and “condense” them into ONE “scene”, it would have an easy-to-recognize theme…
       It would be a man who's nervous and shy… who is trying to FIRST get the woman to LIKE AND ACCEPT HIM.
       For most guys, they have it in their mind that they need to get what psychologists call “approval”.
       They think that the most important thing is that she LIKE him.
       Here's what it looks like to the woman…
       It's like a guy is walking up with a big sign on his forehead that reads: “I want you to think that I'm a nice, sweet, caring, considerate man… and I would do almost anything to make you like and accept me”.
       And guess what?
       IT DOESN'T WORK.
       It never works.
       Well, let me correct myself…
       You will never win the lottery.
       You MIGHT actually win the lottery… but you probably won't.
       And you MIGHT get a woman to feel attracted to her by working to get her attention and approval…
       But you probably won't.
       I think I've made my point.
       Using the “kiss her ass and hope she likes me” strategy is a loser. It does not trigger attraction. It never will.
       Hugh Hefner and Brad Pitt will probably write to me to disagree… and then I'll stand corrected.
       But for regular guys like you and me, it ain't gonna happen.
       ATTRACTION is triggered by a TOTALLY DIFFERENT message.
       It's created by a man who knows how to TRIGGER the attraction when he approaches… not by the man who HOPES it will happen if he's a NICE, SWEET, WONDERFUL GUY.
       In short, DON'T SEEK HER APPROVAL OR ACCEPTANCE.
       She'll smell the Inner Wuss coming out, and she'll shut you down faster than you can say “I touch myself”.

MISTAKE #5: Thinking You Need To Be
“Original And Creative”

       Answer this question:
       When you see an attractive woman that you'd like to meet… and you start thinking about how to approach her and start a conversation… what's the FIRST thing you think of to SAY to her?
       As you know, it can be TORTURE to try to come up with what to say.
       This torture, of course, is SELF-INFLICTED.
       And there's a common “theme” at the root of this “self torture”.
       This theme is that when we see a woman that we'd like to meet, we tend to think to ourselves, “I need to come up with something ORIGINAL and CREATIVE to say to her”.
       Why do we do this?
       Because we DON'T want to come across as insincere… or even CHEESY.
       So we look at her… try to notice something about her… maybe try to come up with some kind of original compliment… or creative humor.
       Here's the problem:
       That attractive woman has men looking at her ALL DAY… EVERY DAY.
       And they're all thinking the SAME THING.
       From HER perspective, every guy is walking up to her and saying one of the SAME FEW THINGS.
       The irony is that in our desire and attempt to be ORIGINAL…we wind up saying essentially the SAME THING as the last hundred guys…
       And TO HER, it comes across in EXACTLY THE WRONG WAY.
       The “original, sincere, real” compliment we give her is just like the last bazillion she got…
       And you just become one more “link” in the “mental sausage chain” in her mind.
       Really.
       So what's the solution?
       The solution is to LEARN what to say when you start a conversation with women. Learn how the PROS do it… so you can get an UNDERSTANDING of what actually WORKS.
       Only after you've learned from several experts… and then used their methods in the REAL WORLD… should you try to be “creative and original”.

MISTAKE #6: Not Having An ARSENAL
Of Techniques “At The Ready”

       You may have noticed that the mistakes I've been talking about have little or nothing to do with “pick up lines” and “techniques”.
       Why is this?
       It's pretty simple, really…
       If you have all these other issues handled, then good “pick up lines” and other techniques are like GUNPOWDER. They're INCREDIBLY powerful.
       If you DON'T have these other issues handled, the best techniques in the world can't help you.
       So, STEP ONE is to get these other issues handled.
       Step TWO is to then learn the very best opening lines and other techniques… so you have “proven systems” for approaching women and starting conversations in ANY situation.
       Until now, there's been nowhere to go for the solutions to ANY of these problems.
       Now there's a place where you can learn to overcome and CONQUER all of these different problems… PLUS get an intensive training on all of the best step-by-step techniques and “pick up lines” for every possible situation…

Why men fall asleep after sex..........................

2009-11-02T16:20:00.000-08:00

1.Men fall asleep after sex because they're tired. If they've managed to achieve orgasm, then their body has been put into a state of bliss and relaxation. It only follows that if a body is relaxed enough, it will fall asleep. This is even a problem with people trying to learn meditation, as they may become so relaxed that they fall asleep. 2.Sex can be a lot of work. However, the amount of work expended during sex by either the man or the woman does not account for the fatigue and drowsiness that follows intercourse. While both partners experience this phenomenon, men definitely have the bigger dose of tired than most women. The common notion is that women want to have conversation and personal bonding time after sex. Men want to snore. Unfortunately, this is all too true. 3.It's my belief, men fall asleep after sex because they've reached the pinnacle of their passion and found the reward of succeeding their quest to achieve and release their sexual passionate desire. It takes a lot of work for men to reach their pinnacle, they must exert lots of energy and efforts. Once they reach their pinnacle, they're quietened in their minds to experience complete satisfaction and a desire to close their eyes and enjoy the peace and calm they're feeling throughout their relaxed body and mind to achieve their quest. 4.What do you like doing after sex? Talk? Cuddle? Watch television? Most women enjoy talking to their spouses. However, most women end up talking to themselves because most men go to sleep immediately after sex. What causes this to happen? Why does it happen to more men than women?

For obvious reasons, sex can create tiredness. After all, sex is a complete body work out. The same things happen after sex that happen after an aerobic exercise; increased heart rate, perspiration, and tiredness. So, why is it surprising that men want to go to sleep afterwards?

5 PERSONALITY TRAITS THAT TURNS WOMEN OFF

2009-07-13T22:03:00.000-07:00

1. Being self-centered. If you are in the habit of constantly talking about yourself, you may be alienating the women you meet. The essence of talking to a woman that you are interested in, especially at the early stages of dating, is to essentially get to know what makes them tick -- to see if you are a match. So if you take up that time to merely talk about yourself, most women will end up feeling that you really are not interested in them and will mentally tune you out. So if you think that you will impress women by talking about yourself, think again. By behaving this way, you end up making sure that women will not date you.

2. Being extremely shy. When you are shy around women you make them feel that you do not have the confidence to chat them up. They assume that you are intimidated by their presence. And women will not hang out with you if they feel that they will have to pull conversations out of you. Women are attracted to confident men.

3. A know-it-all. If you appear to know something about every single subject under the sun, most women will start doubting your honesty and integrity. They think that there is no way you can possibly know something about every single subject matter they bring up. Even when you know a lot, it may pay you more if you let her teach you and show off her knowledge on about a few subject matters. When you let a woman educate you on a few subject matters, you demonstrate that you are a good listener. And women love men that can listen to them.

4. Being overbearing. Do not suppress their ideas, opinions, or suggestions. If you are the type that wants to make every single decision for them or the type that never gives them credit for thinking up good ideas, you will have a hard time getting them to fall for you.

5. Acting like a player. This is one of the worst turn offs for women. Don't act like you have so many women after you. This kind of behavior will not make you more attractive to her. You will only end up making her feel that you are not a one-woman man. And no woman wants to deal with the headaches of a Casanova.

Six Things That Attract Women

2009-07-13T21:43:00.000-07:00

This article: "If there is no excuse, except for yourself, for why you can't meet women, then it's time to turn things around and fast. Here are six things that attract women and how you can control these things."

Learning how to create attraction has to be the number one reason why guys send in email questions. Because they just don’t get it. And even when shown the open doorway to creating attraction they are too scared to walk through. A lack of confidence in themselves is the reason why many men fail. They fail at meeting women. They fail at great first impressions. They fail at talking on the phone and yes, they even may get that all important first date but they put themselves out on a shaky limb, the girl instinctively feels his lack of confidence and she loses interest in him faster than a snowflake melts in hell.

For a guy to be successful with women he has to be in control of six things:
1. Means
2. Power
3. Fame
4. Looks
5. Exclusivity
6. Personality

Now let’s break this down:

Means: how you can afford wealthy items, expensive gifts for yourself and those around you. Can you afford extravagance? If yes, then you hate the Means.

Power: To have power you must be a leader with the ability to lead people, not being a follower. You are decisive, in control of events around you can provide safety for those in your crowd.

Fame: You are well known outside of your own circle of friends for an achievement of sorts.

Looks: They way you look, being able to look great, stand tall (height is a great part of your looks), dress sharply, cleanly.

Exclusivity: Are you hard to get with because of a certain affiliation, do you have a royal heritage (Prince Harry has no problems with the girls, no matter what he does!), do you keep your circle of friends tight around you that will require additional work for someone to be able to meet you?

Personality: Are you creative? Romantic? Funny? Easily well liked? Do people walk across the room to hear you talk, to be in your presence?

These six things that you need to be in control of, which is the easiest for you to control in the next 20 minutes? Will you be richer in the next twenty minutes? Will you gain power of people and events? Not likely! You won’t get better looking, you won’t have people walking in your shadow trying to catch up to you, you have no exclusivity! That leaves us with your personality.

Your personality is the one main thing you can control in any situation, with anyone, in any place. Your personality can shine, sparkle, tease and seduce.

When you can instantly make yourself likeable, friend-ready, dateable and even inspiring, it’s due to a magnetic personality.

It is true that people only see what they want to see. And women in particular are looking for a guy that exudes confidence, is funny and has personality.

When you can talk and be heard, when people cross the room to talk to you, to introduce themselves to you, you are magnetic.

And where can you learn the magic aspects of personality?

My ebook, Double Your Dating is all about personality and becoming ‘cocky and funny’ with women that creates instant, undeniable attraction.

Let’s take a letter from someone that has read the ebook and applied the personality concept to himself with successful results:

***SUCCESS STORY***

10 Ways to Express Your Love Online.

2009-07-08T19:38:00.000-07:00

If you're looking for a new way to express your love, these online declarations of love more than meet the challenge.

1. Build a Website
It may sound like a daunting task, but building a website is easier than ever. For those tech savvy romantics, get a domain name such as JaneAndJohn.com, then create a website dedicated to your partner and your relationship. For those that aren't quite as tech savvy, look for a service that provides a free website creator tool. These tools often offer templates where no HTML code knowledge is needed. Generally, you can register the domain name and use the website creator for one low cost. Add some romantic clipart, photos of the two of you, love quotes, anecdotes, and memories of your relationship. Websites are particularly great for wedding proposals or even to chronicle your engagement and plan your wedding!

2. Create a Love Blog
If you want a quick and easy way to create on online dedication of love, blogging is the way to go. They're free, easy to setup, and easy to maintain. Once you create the initial design, which in itself is quite easy, you need only log in a few times a week and scribe love notes to your sweetie. If you sign him or her up with an RSS reader or even MyYahoo!, they'll automatically receive updates alerting them of your recent love notes. To get started, try Vox.com, WordPress, Blogger, or TypePad.

3. Create a LoveSpace with MySpace
If you don't already have a MySpace page for yourself, you've more than likely at least heard of the popular social network. MySpace works by giving users the ability to create their own "space" on the web and connect with other people on the network. Our suggestion for MySpace is to create your own LoveSpace on the network. Sign up for a free account and within minutes you'll have a page dedicated to your sweetie. Keep it focused on romance with weekly love notes, romantic poems, and photos. You can even add a romantic love song that plays when s/he visits the page! Make sure to set it up as private so that you feel free to open your heart and write whatever the mood strikes without worrying about prying eyes.

4. Post Love Messages on Message Boards
If you and/or your partner frequent message boards or forums, take the opportunity to use it as a romantic tool. If allowed (be sure to check all posting rules first), start a thread declaring your love for your partner. Many community oriented forums allow you to create your own online journal within one long thread. Take advantage of this opportunity to post public declarations of love to your sweetie. Even if you don't frequent a forum, find one on a romance related website, such as our own Romance Forum that allows a journal or thread to be posted in dedication to your partner.

5. Send an eCard
It may seem impersonal or even like a copout (if sent on an important holiday such as Valentine's Day or her birthday), but if you send ecards "just because", they're a great way to add a little romance to your sweetie's day. Browse the various free ecard sites, such as Hallmark.com, for funny, romantic, and sexy ecards. Most importantly though, put a bit of thought into your personalized message. Rather than ending it with 'Love, Your Name', think deep and write from the heart. Surprising your sweetie with a romantic ecard with romantic messages in their inbox will bring a smile to their face.

6. Send an eLoveCoupon.
eLoveCoupons allow you to create completely customized love coupons to give to your honey. You choose the background and the text for the coupon. Give her a coupon for a body massage by candlelight or give him a coupon for a quickie of his choice. Once you've created your love coupon, print it out or email it to your partner! Try the eLoveCoupon creator now.

7. Serenade Her on Ksolo
You're probably thinking ksolo what? We happened across Ksolo.com recently and were immediately inundated with all of the romantic possibilities. Ksolo works like a karaoke bar without the booze or live music. Basically, it's karaoke online. To get started, fill out the quick -- and free -- signup form. Once logged in, you can choose from literally thousands of songs to serenade your sweetie with. The only rule here is to pick a romantic song -- or perhaps even "your" song? Try it out at Ksolo.com.

8. Go Live with YouTube
Put that webcam to use and create a short video declaring your love for your partner. Once you're finished, upload it to YouTube for free and then send a link via email for him/her to check it out!

9. Post A Classified
Craig's List is a network of city that allow you to post free classified ads for almost anything. Take advantage of these classified listings and post an ad declaring your love for your partner. Put a simple "I Love You", fill an ad with loving thoughts, or use it to ask your partner out on a date (even if you've been married for years!).

10. Get Back to the Basics with Sexy Mail
Get back to the basics by sending romantic emails or Instant Messages to your partner. Send sexy love quotes via email or emoticons representing what you'd like to be doing to them at that moment (such as for ). Steer clear of other subjects in your messages -- keep them strictly romantic! Most importantly, to keep IM's and email's fresh and romantic, send them when your partner least expects them. For a different take on an old favorite, send sexy emails with HoochyMail.com. This service works like an adult version of Mad Libs, allowing you to send a sexy story via email that stars you and your partner.

The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make with Women — And What to Do About It...

2009-07-08T18:31:00.000-07:00

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of a "Nice Guy"

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying to "Convince Her to Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking to Her for Approval or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying to "Buy" Her Affection with Food and Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early in the Relationship with Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works for Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money and Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All of Your Power to Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What to Do in Each Type of Situation with Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

I Now Have a FREE, Three-Times-a-Week Email Newsletter...

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And I'd like to invite you to sign up.

It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself).

Of course, it even gets better than that...

It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.